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Making Your Boundaries Also Includes Your Own Family
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Making Your Boundaries Also Includes Your Own Family

This is now Blog #4 in a row on the importance of making and keeping your own boundaries. As well as several other blogs on boundaries throughout Brave Dating Coach. This is definitely a brave dating practice. Making and keeping your own boundaries is what will make you attractive and it will help you grow […]

Goodness – The Vulnerable Fruit of the Spirit
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Goodness – The Vulnerable Fruit of the Spirit

Leader: God is good all the time. Response: All the time God is good. We say this often. Sometimes with exuberance. Yet sometimes we don’t believe it. Some of us never believe it. Because how can God be good when my life hurts so much? How can there be any good in me because I […]

Even The Earth Wept
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Even The Earth Wept

As you probably already know a good part of last year  I was on sabbatical. After 20-plus years at our church, Brenda and I felt God leading us to something new. And after much church-visiting we found a new home in January at Spirit & Life Church in Montclair, Virginia.  We are both on staff […]

The Contorted Thinking That You Get If You Don’t Set Your Boundaries
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The Contorted Thinking That You Get If You Don’t Set Your Boundaries

Our View of Ourselves “I am bad for having boundaries.” “I am selfish for owning my own life.” “My wants are not important.” “My wants are the only ones that are important.” “I must have everything I want.” “I am responsible for others.” “I must do whatever anyone wants of me.” “Whatever goes wrong is […]

Unspeakable Joy…….
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Unspeakable Joy…….

Earlier last year I heard the phrase “Unspeakable Joy” and I just loved it.  I don’t know what it was about it that just made me smile, but I am pretty sure it didn’t have anything to do with thinking about loss.  I imagined it being something that caused so much joy, you just didn’t […]

Kindness – The Vulnerable Fruit of the Spirit
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Kindness – The Vulnerable Fruit of the Spirit

People are going to break your heart. Recently I wrote this in a letter to my son who is in prison, “There is that stupid saying, “You only hurt the ones you love.” It is overused and misused. But the truth of it is you get hurt by the ones you love because you keep […]

Reminders……
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Reminders……

I’ve realized grief has a funny way of showing itself. Sometimes you think you’re really okay, only to find out, you’re not really okay. Sometimes it takes people closest to you to tell you, “Maybe you’re not really okay.” Thankfully, I have a pretty amazing husband who encouraged me to leave him for a month, […]

Patience – The Vulnerable Fruit of the Spirit
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Patience – The Vulnerable Fruit of the Spirit

God, give me patience!!!!!! What we are really saying when we pray this is or scream this (let’s be honest) is, “God remove me from this tension that I am in. I don’t like it.” Tension is uncomfortable. Tension is vulnerable. Patience creates tension. This is part 4 of our series on the vulnerability that […]

Boundaries Are Attractive—As in They Really Do Attract Others
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Boundaries Are Attractive—As in They Really Do Attract Others

“The most compassionate people I have interviewed over the past 13 years have also been the most boundaried.” –Dr. Brene’ Brown Another Dr. Brene’ Brown memorable quote—that comes from research. Coming from research is important to me. I just don’t want to give you platitudes to encourage you and challenge you. I challenge you from […]

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