Yearly Archives: 2018

The Deal You Make With Yourself When You are Nice
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The Deal You Make With Yourself When You are Nice

Do you do this? Do you think that If you are really nice, accommodating, and self-sacrificing towards your other, then he/she will be really nice, accommodating, and self-sacrificing towards you. However when this silent deal is not met, you turn into a guilt-tripping, passive-aggressive, emotional manipulator. When all along this was your deal that you […]

Praying the Truth of My Soul (Which is Not in Complete Sentences)
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Praying the Truth of My Soul (Which is Not in Complete Sentences)

I still struggle to know what a life of prayer looks like. I don’t think I pray all that well. It’s clumsy. It’s me-centered. It’s a list. I ramble. I get sidetracked. I get so sidetracked that I forget that I was actually in prayer. It all feels so unholy. Yet the teens in my […]

It’s Not Just Yes, No, or Wait
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It’s Not Just Yes, No, or Wait

Have you ever wrestled with the idea of prayer? Does God really care about my prayers? Does God intervene in this life because of my prayers? If you ever voiced this thought out loud you probably at least once have received this answer in return. God answers prayer in three ways: yes, no, or wait. […]

Pick Up the Phone
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Pick Up the Phone

Don’t ask someone out by text. Not for the first date. Not for the second date. Not after you are in a relationship for six months. Maybe occasionally when you are in a committed relationship but use text more for such things as “I’m on my way” or “Thought of you when I woke up […]

Don’t fall for the slick, dandified cake eater—the unpolished gold of a real man is worth more than the gloss of a lounge lizard.
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Don’t fall for the slick, dandified cake eater—the unpolished gold of a real man is worth more than the gloss of a lounge lizard.

This “rule” is just begging for its own blog post. Because, men, there is gold to be found in you. This rule comes from the list of the rules the Anti-Flirt Club of the 1920s created to protect women from the lounge lizards who would use false intentions for their personal gains. Men, you are […]

The Dirt Our Lives Grow Through
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The Dirt Our Lives Grow Through

The ugliness of our past is buried in that dirt. The hurt. The anger. The loss of innocence. The rejection. The fear of inadequacy. The shame. The regrets. The dreams lost to “what if…” But if we don’t do the painful work of digging those things up and go through an intentional “death” experience of […]

The Anti-Flirt Club
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The Anti-Flirt Club

No, this is not a club I have started. No way. This is not a brave dating practice. Read It’s Okay to Flirt. And Some Tips to Flirt Wisely. The Anti-Flirt Club was an American club active in Washington, D.C., (where I live) during the early 1920s. The purpose of the club was to protect […]

Checklist of God’s Promise to You in This Brave Life
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Checklist of God’s Promise to You in This Brave Life

You will have noticed that I continually mention a relationship with God as part of a brave life. Because life is a broken road of faith. It is hard. With God you have a chance to know that you are loved therefore you are worthy and valuable. You were purposed before you understood you were […]

Why I am So Opinionated About Christian Dating
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Why I am So Opinionated About Christian Dating

Opinionated I am! But it is personal to me. I’ve been a youth pastor nearing 37 years. That is a lot of teenagers I have loved. That is a lot of teenagers whom I have walked through broken hearts with. Many of these teenagers I’ve been privileged to walk with them all the way to […]

Checklist for Brave Living
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Checklist for Brave Living

You know deep in your soul that God is for you. No matter what the circumstances.   You believe vulnerability is necessary. You are willing to do something with no guarantees. You are willing to invest in a relationship that may or may not work out. You are willing to live broken-hearted realizing that the […]

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