Brave Dating Coach

Brenda Seefeldt Amodea has been in youth ministry for 35 years and is an ordained minister. This means she really loves teenagers (she does!) and that she has walked through dating and marriage issues with her grown teens for those same 35 years. She has lots and lots of practical experience. Brenda also has lots of strong and practiced opinions which this blog will allow her to share.

Who Was That Person on That Date?

I’m not asking this question to the other person, the person you just met at a coffee date. I’m asking you. Who was that different person? The one contorting your true self so that this date would work? What happened to you? Were you so hoping for a second date that you contorted yourself? Have you […]

Contorting Yourself to Figure Out if You Are Loveable

I received this message from a senior in high school: “I’m being an idiot about this, but I’ve considered telling him.  If it’d turn out that he didn’t feel the same, I’d say someone took my phone.  That’s what I’ve been thinking about.  I’m prolly not going to say anything…I’m so confused right now.” I’m […]


Part of brave dating is you simply have to be vulnerable. Being vulnerable opens you up to the “what if” that God has for you. Living with the “what if” that God has for you is an exciting way to live. Along the way though you may/will meet some crazies. One of my coaching participants joined […]

“Sexy is just crap that people try to sell to you to make you feel like less.”

I’ve never been an Ashton Kutcher fan. Too much Hollywood-glitz/lack of high values for me. But that may have changed. At the 2013 Teen Choice Awards Ashton Kutcher won the Lifetime Achievement Award at the age of 37. Side note: This is so Hollywood to grant this end-of-life award at age 35. My “bold” prediction […]

I Believe in Brave Dating—In the Age of Tinder

What has happened to the practice of dating? “Hookup culture, which has been percolating for about a hundred years, has collided with dating apps, which have acted like a wayward meteor on the now dinosaur-like rituals of courtship.” That’s from a Vanity Fair article that has a lot of people talking and pondering. The article […]

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