Brave Dating Coach

Brenda Seefeldt Amodea has been in youth ministry for 35 years and is an ordained minister. This means she really loves teenagers (she does!) and that she has walked through dating and marriage issues with her grown teens for those same 35 years. She has lots and lots of practical experience. Brenda also has lots of strong and practiced opinions which this blog will allow her to share.

WTH is Dating Anyway?

Dating is a fairly new concept. It may feel like this has been around forever—maybe because you feel like you’ve been dating uselessly forever—but it really started around the 1900s when that part of history changed most of the entire world—the Industrial Revolution. However, dating wasn’t considered welcomed. Many early daters, particularly the women, were […]

I Hate Dating

Actually I never hated dating. Yes, I did have my heart broken, and smashed twice. But I always loved dating. And I still love dating my husband. But I hear from many people that they hate dating. Is this you? I loved dating because I got to get to know new people. If a guy […]

Behaviors That Should Not Be Excused for Too Long in the Beginning of a Relationship

Okay.  You’ve been on a few dates with this new person.  It’s been fun.  The excitement is there.  But you are discerning that something may be “off” and you don’t know if you should continue growing this early relationship.  Here is a list that can help you discern better. Being inconsiderate regarding time or commitments. […]

The Vulnerability of Dating

Yes, dating is full of vulnerability.  This is why so many dread dating so much.  It is you meeting someone new who is trying to figure out who you are.  That is vulnerable.  Who are you presenting to this new person?  Do you like this person you are presenting to this new date? There is […]

Mistakes are Experiences

So you’ve had an ending.  Now you are in the midst of a quagmire of emotions.  Know this:  Mistakes are experiences. What did you learn about you? Too often we use our mistakes to shame us. The voices in our heads that we are not pretty enough, thin enough, smart enough, good enough grow very […]

Loneliness Soup Served at Christmas

Tis the season, huh? My girl posted this on Facebook back on November 20 making this declaration: The holiday season is blanketed as a time of joy and thankfulness. But as some of us deal with brokenness in our families, like me for example, holidays can be an anxiety-provoking time of year. This season, though, […]

Merry Christmas to the Lonely

This is a blog about brave dating. One could assume that everyone who is reading it is brave and has a full life of dating and friendships. That would be nice if everyone was that way. But a real truth that is screaming at you right now is you are lonely. You are not alone […]

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