Brave Dating Coach

Brenda Seefeldt Amodea has been in youth ministry for 35 years and is an ordained minister. This means she really loves teenagers (she does!) and that she has walked through dating and marriage issues with her grown teens for those same 35 years. She has lots and lots of practical experience. Brenda also has lots of strong and practiced opinions which this blog will allow her to share.

Filling the Gap with Trust or Suspicion

Over on Be Brave I shared about this little innate thing our brain does when there are gaps between promises and performances in relationships. And gaps between expected behavior and actual behavior. To move us out of that place of discomfort that this gap puts us in, our brain innately fills in that gap with […]

Porn is Not

Porn is not a pastime. It’s a pathway. Research confirms it. It’s an addiction. It’s a romance killer. It’s a competition the woman you say you love will lose every time. Porn makes a promise it can’t keep. –Andy Stanley, The New Rules for Love, Sex, & Dating That is a bold and brave declaration […]

You Can Be One of Those Known as “Hard to Get”

Have you noticed how those who play “hard to get” always have attracters? Have you been jealous of someone like that? Maybe that someone is one of your friends? There are two reasons why those who play “hard to get” have attracters. But first let me define what “hard to get” is not. This is […]

Do You Want to be More Than That Nice Guy?

Women really do want to marry nice guys. We want to be treated nicely and respectfully. Players, bullies, jocks, all those stereotypes do not know how to be that. Sadly, I know too many women who choose badly and are drawn to the “bad boy.” Wounded people love bleeding on each other. Nice guy, this […]

Dating in a Small Church

After working in large churches all of my ministry life, my last church made a decision to multiply into smaller churches. Some call this the micro-church movement. I found these were some of our healthier years as a church. I love being involved in a small church. People know each other, really know each other. […]

Brave Dating Practice: Commit Yourself to a Local Church

If taking notes from this blog, write this one down. This is a brave dating practice. You may think that loving Jesus is enough. It’s not. Somehow this weird “Jesus and me” mentality has infected Christianity. For too many church has become listening to podcasts, watching popular preachers, hiking, skiing, or otherwise spend time in […]

Women’s Hearts Must Be Guarded. Really?

I missed this message, which I understand started in the 90s, that it is a man’s responsibility to guard a woman’s heart.  I missed it because I was busy teaching my youth group and every camp and retreat that would have me something of more substance and more truth. Yet I hear lingerings of this […]

Big Ups to Twentysomethings

I love twentysomethings.  Of course I do because all of them used to be teenagers whom I love also.  I created this blog for twentysomethings because I care deeply (which is why I am so opinionated) about the decisions they make during their 20s. This is why I post this Ted talk.  In the opening […]

When Do You Text Back?

There is an app for that. Seriously there is. Disclaimer: I have not dated in this texting world. Though I am an avid texter. I had to become one because I love teenagers and text is their language. I am amazed at the great truths of God’s love I can communicate through text. How did […]

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