Brave Dating Coach

Brenda Seefeldt Amodea has been in youth ministry for 35 years and is an ordained minister. This means she really loves teenagers (she does!) and that she has walked through dating and marriage issues with her grown teens for those same 35 years. She has lots and lots of practical experience. Brenda also has lots of strong and practiced opinions which this blog will allow her to share.

Second Date Ideas (Oh You Creative Person)

This is after the coffee date or after several coffee dates. When you are ready to take this person you are getting to know on a date, don’t make it a dinner and movie date. How hum drum. How stereotypical. Maybe even boring. Let your creativity shine. Why? Women will remember these dates. Women will […]

Placing Yourself in Good Situations

Another brave dating practice.  Place yourself in good situations.  Get involved in ministry in whatever capacity because… I know a wonderful late-in-life single who just got asked to be on the board of our local homeless and under-served non-profit, a very respected and renowned organization.  I’ve known this woman for 20+ years because she used […]

Lies We Tell Ourselves to Stay in a Relationship

I am different than the others. (Yes, you are but how does that mean you get to be mistreated in this relationship?) He’s/She’s thinking about me. (So. You are the reason for his/her bad behavior because he/she is thinking about you?) I am more important to him/her. (There is that comparison and choosing to live […]

Flash Cards for Dating Discernment

If only dating could be simplified down to flash cards to help you figure it all out.  Not possible.  Dating is more wondrous than flash cards. An err I so often see is someone believing that to get a certain someone’s attention we have to contort ourselves. We willingly do it so we can have […]

Brave Dating is Not Crazy Talk

I am a true believer in my Brave Dating Practices. These all come from 35 years of youth ministry (which does not end at high school graduation) and my own adventures in dating that worked very well to find me my very good husband. I love my role as a Brave Dating Coach. Yet sometimes […]

How Do You Want to Be Remembered?

This is a good question. How do you want to be remembered? And I’m not talking about your funeral. This is Brave Dating Coach. Since you hopefully will be going on many coffee dates, how do you want to be remembered after one of those coffee dates? How do you want that other person to […]

Happy Valentine’s Day to Me

There aren’t any flowers or chocolates in my home today. There wasn’t a fancy dinner yesterday. There wasn’t even a homemade Valentine for me. And I felt loved. My love language is “acts of service.” So John spoke his love for me with a day full of acts of service. What a grand day. My […]

Bad Reasons to Date

I love dating. I love dating my husband. I loved dating before I got married. Dating is getting to know healthy but flawed people who share your values and esteem for marriage. This is what I believe about dating. But there are bad reasons to date. Do any of these apply to you: You’re lonely. […]

Countdown to Valentine’s Day

February is beginning but I’m afraid all things Valentine’s has begun long before February 1. Wonderful single people, I’m sorry that the world is putting you through this. It’s a stupid holiday. Much has been written on how a liturgical celebration to honor martyrs named Valentine became this stupid holiday. Google for that research. We […]

Looking for Love That is Stronger Than Death

That’s quite a title that hits a deep longing for those of you who are searching for love in this confusing and broken world. I know some truths to get you there. Please read on. I’ve been in youth ministry since 1981. That is lots and lots of lots of teens that grow into young […]

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