Don’t fall for the slick, dandified cake eater—the unpolished gold of a real man is worth more than the gloss of a lounge lizard.
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Don’t fall for the slick, dandified cake eater—the unpolished gold of a real man is worth more than the gloss of a lounge lizard.

This “rule” is just begging for its own blog post. Because, men, there is gold to be found in you. This rule comes from the list of the rules the Anti-Flirt Club of the 1920s created to protect women from the lounge lizards who would use false intentions for their personal gains. Men, you are […]

The Dirt Our Lives Grow Through
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The Dirt Our Lives Grow Through

The ugliness of our past is buried in that dirt. The hurt. The anger. The loss of innocence. The rejection. The fear of inadequacy. The shame. The regrets. The dreams lost to “what if…” But if we don’t do the painful work of digging those things up and go through an intentional “death” experience of […]

The Anti-Flirt Club
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The Anti-Flirt Club

No, this is not a club I have started. No way. This is not a brave dating practice. Read It’s Okay to Flirt. And Some Tips to Flirt Wisely. The Anti-Flirt Club was an American club active in Washington, D.C., (where I live) during the early 1920s. The purpose of the club was to protect […]

Checklist of God’s Promise to You in This Brave Life
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Checklist of God’s Promise to You in This Brave Life

You will have noticed that I continually mention a relationship with God as part of a brave life. Because life is a broken road of faith. It is hard. With God you have a chance to know that you are loved therefore you are worthy and valuable. You were purposed before you understood you were […]

Why I am So Opinionated About Christian Dating
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Why I am So Opinionated About Christian Dating

Opinionated I am! But it is personal to me. I’ve been a youth pastor nearing 37 years. That is a lot of teenagers I have loved. That is a lot of teenagers whom I have walked through broken hearts with. Many of these teenagers I’ve been privileged to walk with them all the way to […]

Checklist for Brave Living
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Checklist for Brave Living

You know deep in your soul that God is for you. No matter what the circumstances.   You believe vulnerability is necessary. You are willing to do something with no guarantees. You are willing to invest in a relationship that may or may not work out. You are willing to live broken-hearted realizing that the […]

I Am Worth More
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I Am Worth More

This #MeToo movement has turned our world upside down. It has definitely turned dating upside down. I say good. The #MeToo movement has revealed the hypocritical truth of the sexual revolution–that women can enjoy casual sex with men who want their bodies but don’t care about their welfare. I am worth more. I find this […]

I Love This God of Maybe
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I Love This God of Maybe

Do you have a relationship with God whom you love and God who breaks your heart? I bravely–not stupidly–do. I have bravely followed the beauty of this God of Maybe and in the process have become my own hero story. I know some people who believe I am stupid for this kind of faith. I […]

Love > Fear
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Love > Fear

So a few weeks ago I shared that the Lord was moving me into an area that was totally out of my comfort zone, but that I was learning to “trust the Shepard” in the process. This story of mine is probably the bravest step I’ve ever taken in my 40 years of life…..or maybe […]