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The Deal You Make With Yourself When You are Nice
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The Deal You Make With Yourself When You are Nice

Do you do this? Do you think that If you are really nice, accommodating, and self-sacrificing towards your other, then he/she will be really nice, accommodating, and self-sacrificing towards you. However when this silent deal is not met, you turn into a guilt-tripping, passive-aggressive, emotional manipulator. When all along this was your deal that you […]

Pick Up the Phone
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Pick Up the Phone

Don’t ask someone out by text. Not for the first date. Not for the second date. Not after you are in a relationship for six months. Maybe occasionally when you are in a committed relationship but use text more for such things as “I’m on my way” or “Thought of you when I woke up […]

Don’t fall for the slick, dandified cake eater—the unpolished gold of a real man is worth more than the gloss of a lounge lizard.
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Don’t fall for the slick, dandified cake eater—the unpolished gold of a real man is worth more than the gloss of a lounge lizard.

This “rule” is just begging for its own blog post. Because, men, there is gold to be found in you. This rule comes from the list of the rules the Anti-Flirt Club of the 1920s created to protect women from the lounge lizards who would use false intentions for their personal gains. Men, you are […]

The Anti-Flirt Club
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The Anti-Flirt Club

No, this is not a club I have started. No way. This is not a brave dating practice. Read It’s Okay to Flirt. And Some Tips to Flirt Wisely. The Anti-Flirt Club was an American club active in Washington, D.C., (where I live) during the early 1920s. The purpose of the club was to protect […]

Why I am So Opinionated About Christian Dating
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Why I am So Opinionated About Christian Dating

Opinionated I am! But it is personal to me. I’ve been a youth pastor nearing 37 years. That is a lot of teenagers I have loved. That is a lot of teenagers whom I have walked through broken hearts with. Many of these teenagers I’ve been privileged to walk with them all the way to […]

I Am Worth More
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I Am Worth More

This #MeToo movement has turned our world upside down. It has definitely turned dating upside down. I say good. The #MeToo movement has revealed the hypocritical truth of the sexual revolution–that women can enjoy casual sex with men who want their bodies but don’t care about their welfare. I am worth more. I find this […]

When Guilt is Lying About the Real Brokenness
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When Guilt is Lying About the Real Brokenness

Guilt and shame are lying suckers. Shame is that story stealer. Here’s some more wow truth from Dr. Henry Cloud: I once worked with a young woman who was sleeping around. After each incident, knowing it was wrong, she would vow to never let it happen again. But then she would meet some guy who […]

When Guilt is Really Sadness
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When Guilt is Really Sadness

I know a lovely 20something who is the daughter of two sucky parents. I am making this judgment after watching their behavior towards her for the past three plus years and hearing her stories from growing up. These parents are selfish, wounded, and don’t know how to even be grateful for their lovely daughter. Sadly […]

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