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Please remember to recognize the darkness and be a light.

It is brave decision upon brave decision upon brave decision. Even the little ones when those decisions make you feel anxious and nervous and you would rather shut down in front of Netflix. It is in those brave decisions that you become light. Light to you and a light to others.         […]

My Proclamation of Faith (When My Life Does Not Make Sense)

This is not my statement of faith which I believe as an ordained minister. This is what I proclaim when my life no longer makes sense. This is what I have learned from being at the door of the Father’s heart. I learned this back in the early 1980s and it has sustained me through […]

The Lament for Grief

Grief is unique. Unlike emotions that don’t necessarily take you anywhere and can also keep you stuck, grief is a forward motion. It hurts like hell and that is where it starts to move you forward to denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Pain is your beginning. Grief means I am getting ready for what […]

The Lament for Singles

I read this article on Good Friday, Where Have All the Lamenters Gone? I had to share this part: Reclaiming the Lost Language of Lament It’s time to recover this lost language. And I believe to find our way back to this essential, life-giving practice, we do it together. The Jewish people lamented in community, […]

The World Needs the Heartbreak You Risk

This is a video story I happened upon from my brother’s church. (The same one doing this coincidentally.) It is a beautifully gripping testimony of the pain of cancer and the pain of fatherlessness and the beauty that comes from both. So moving. Can you feel the holy tension in the questions raised? But most […]

Faithfulness-The Vulnerable Fruit of the Spirit

Why are You listening so quietly, Jesus? Faithfulness is brave. Because faith is taking the first step even when you cannot see the whole staircase. The whole staircase is hidden mostly because of those silences coming from God. Why?!!!! It is one thing to be faithful when you can see God’s active hand in your […]

Gentleness – The Vulnerable Fruit of the Spirit

“When I see people stand fully in their truth, or when I see someone fall down, get back up, and say, “Damn. That really hurt, but this is important to me and I’m going in again”—my gut reaction is, “What a badass.” ― Brené Brown, Rising Strong I begin gentleness with this quote about being […]

Peace – The Vulnerable Fruit of the Spirit

We continue on with these vulnerable fruits of the spirit. Peace is next. How can peace have vulnerability? It is peace, isn’t it? Can’t I simply have peace in my life? Love Joy Peace is a central promise of the Christian faith. One of the names of Jesus is the Prince of Peace after all. […]

Joy – The Vulnerable Fruit of the Spirit

“The joy doesn’t replace the heartache; rather, they tensely coexist each day, fighting for our undivided attention.” –Lesa Brackbill This quote comes from a friend of mine who lost her baby to the horrible disease Krabbe. She wrote it in the midst of the long suffering death of her baby girl. (Read their story here.) […]

Joy comes in the mourning……

If you’ve read my other blog posts I’m hoping that you’re seeing a common thread….. Choose Joy. Those two simple words have changed my life in more ways than I can count.  Several years ago I had them tattooed on my wrist as a daily reminder, but they have been seared on my heart long […]