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The Deal You Make With Yourself When You are Nice
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The Deal You Make With Yourself When You are Nice

Do you do this? Do you think that If you are really nice, accommodating, and self-sacrificing towards your other, then he/she will be really nice, accommodating, and self-sacrificing towards you. However when this silent deal is not met, you turn into a guilt-tripping, passive-aggressive, emotional manipulator. When all along this was your deal that you […]

Why I am So Opinionated About Christian Dating
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Why I am So Opinionated About Christian Dating

Opinionated I am! But it is personal to me. I’ve been a youth pastor nearing 37 years. That is a lot of teenagers I have loved. That is a lot of teenagers whom I have walked through broken hearts with. Many of these teenagers I’ve been privileged to walk with them all the way to […]

I Am Worth More
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I Am Worth More

This #MeToo movement has turned our world upside down. It has definitely turned dating upside down. I say good. The #MeToo movement has revealed the hypocritical truth of the sexual revolution–that women can enjoy casual sex with men who want their bodies but don’t care about their welfare. I am worth more. I find this […]

When Guilt is Lying About the Real Brokenness
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When Guilt is Lying About the Real Brokenness

Guilt and shame are lying suckers. Shame is that story stealer. Here’s some more wow truth from Dr. Henry Cloud: I once worked with a young woman who was sleeping around. After each incident, knowing it was wrong, she would vow to never let it happen again. But then she would meet some guy who […]

A Ten Month Relationship is Not a Failure
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A Ten Month Relationship is Not a Failure

I received this message from a guy in my life (who also happens to be a great catch): Mandy and I broke up, so that’s tough. The distance was getting to be too much. Our personalities were different enough that we always had to put a lot of work into our relationship even when we […]

Loneliness Just Is. We All Get to Sit in Seasons of It
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Loneliness Just Is. We All Get to Sit in Seasons of It

My local paper, the Washington Post, just ran a story with the title “Why are young adults the loneliest generation in America?” Besides a recounting of the latest research (all of America came across as lonely) the answer that was offered is that young adults prioritize activities that achieve goals, not meaningful connection. So much […]

Whew. I Married a Giver
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Whew. I Married a Giver

Whew. It is a good thing I married a giver. Before I was married I did 15 years single as a full-time minister. I was not about to give up this call on my life to get married. This was always a major factor in deciding who I would date. Every guy who asked me […]

The Silliness of Finding Your Soul Mate
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The Silliness of Finding Your Soul Mate

“I feel like a part of my soul has loved you since the beginning of everything. Maybe we’re from the same star.” ― Emery Allen Oh sheesh. The mystical magic of love. That is not real. This was just one of many beautiful yet sappy quotes on finding your soul mate. Then I went to […]