Be Brave

Brenda Seefeldt Amodea is in her 35th year of ministry—all of it with youth. She loves youth—and that role in ministry is not ending. The topic of bravery has been a consistent message she has taught over those 35 years. Brenda has many stories she loves to share—and not stories from 35 years ago. They are current stories as she continues to live bravely.

Forgiveness is Not

Are you ready to forgive that awful awful awful person in your life? Probably not. This is hard. This is brave. But stay with me. Part 1 is here. Part 2 is here. First let’s breakdown what forgiveness is not: Letting go of healthy forms of anger. Allowing others to continue to disrespect your needs […]

Forgiving Others is One of the Bravest Things You Can Do

One of the bravest things we can ever do is to forgive someone. Why? Because it is so hard. It puts us back into vulnerability. It makes us feel again. And we’d rather not. Read Part 1 Here. We have our reasons—mostly very good reasons. Yet the challenge is we are to forgive. Jesus is […]

The Journey of Forgiveness

It was during the sentencing of our son that he read a statement before “God, the judge, and man.”  Isn’t that what happens when you testify in court?  In this statement was his first apology to John and I—before God, the judge, and man.  That plays out beautifully for a Hollywood drama but for us […]

Sticky Notes of Truth

The sticky note—what a wonderful invention. I can write that important “thing” on this little note and stick it in view so I won’t forget. Sticky notes make the perfect bookmark, even letting me know which line I stopped reading at. I can stick that note right on the next line to read. I can […]

Does the Pain Ever Feel Like Its In the Past?

I sincerely ask that question with an answer I don’t have for you. Today I was doing my volunteer duties as a part of juvenile probation. (I do love teenagers, even those who thankfully have these resources to change their direction.) I was just chatting up my favorite probation officer when he randomly started telling […]

In the Midst of Our Nation’s Pain, Look for the Helpers and Become Softer

The past couple of days I’ve been overwhelmingly grieved. First was the shooting of Alton Sterling in Baton Rouge, Louisiana. My immediate thought was, “Not again?!” The video was grievous. Then the shooting of Philando Castile in Falcon Heights, Minnesota. I grew up in Minnesota. I know where Falcon Heights is. I drove through there […]

The True Measure of Time is Called Hope. How?

Pope Francis has said something profound to ponder. I know. He generally does this all the time. That’s why he’s beloved by so many. In a letter to prisoners in Velletri, Italy, he wrote: “Inmates are living an experience in which time seems both to be stopped, and to never end. The true measure of […]

How Can I Live Bravely with Safety?

The title may sound like an oxymoron. And some first reactions may be, “Forsake safety!” “I laugh in the face of safety.” These are the same people who pulverize a collarbone (the x-ray tech said that) when they ride a BMX bike without a helmet. (Says the wife of a husband of such an adventure.) […]

Follow the Heartbreak

“The brokenhearted are indeed the bravest among us—they dared to love, and they dared to forgive.” –Dr. Brene Brown This quote just gets me. I keep going back to it again and again and again. I must be the bravest mom out there because I sure am broken-hearted. And I’m still daring to love and […]

When Guilt is Really Sadness

I have a lovely 20something friend who is the daughter of two sucky parents. I am making this judgment after watching their behavior towards her for the past two plus years and hearing her stories from growing up. These parents are selfish, wounded, and don’t know how to even be grateful for their lovely daughter. […]

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