Ask for Setups

You’ve been reading quite a few of these Brave Dating articles. You are feeling a bit hopeful that maybe you will have a new relationship. Maybe soon God will bring this love for a lifetime into your life because you have never felt more healthy and more prepared. 

You already have your team together, right? This is something in your control to prepare you for this hopeful hope that you have.

So bravely ask your team to set you up on dates. Yes, ask them.

Your immediate thought about this pushes that vulnerability button. That fear that one of your team members is going to set you up with someone “wrong.”

Why would one of your team members do that? Seriously? They are on your team for a reason and you put them there. You already believed that they know you and want what is best for you. And they know people you don’t know.

And really, you aren’t doing too well on your own finding dates, right?

Ask for setups. Just get a coffee with that setup. Listen to your team members before and after this coffee date. There is much you can learn about YOU in this process. Your team members want that for you. And really, how bad is this person going to be if one of your team members knows him/her?

Also don’t be ashamed to voice your desire to your team. Do not be embarrassed to ask for setups. Trust your team during this vulnerable process.

This is a giant maybe. A “who knows what may happen.” So…I am bringing this idea up to you. What you do with it is also up to you. 




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